|Loving on Daddy in the snow|
|Loving on Daddy when he got home from work|
Here's why we didn't think James had autism.
Autism Sign: Lack of Affection
So James doesn't have autism because he loves on us.
Autism Sign: Lack of Range of Emotions
Plus, I've said it before, the empathy he has for Lily. It's the best if she's upset and crying and then he starts to cry, or vice-versa, and their cries are in harmony, so funny. When they were apart and saw each other again you knew they missed each other from the smiles on their faces.
There you go, James doesn't have autism because he has lots of emotions.
Autism Sign: No Separation Anxiety from Parents
James doesn't have autism because he hates being away from me.
Autism Sign: Inability to Handle Change to Routine
I said that James hated having his schedule changed because I was so strict with the schedule the first year of their life. You know, feed your twins at the same time, have your twins sleep at the same, stuff like that.
So James doesn't have autism because his routine issues were my fault because I'm anal like that, and it was the only way I could survive.
Autism Sign: Sensory Issues
But those are reasons why we ruled autism out.
Autism Sign: Delays in Motor Skills
|Seeing Daddy after 10 days of being apart|
Autism Sign: Delay and Loss of Speech
James didn't have autism because he was gaining new language and just had a bad memory when it came to remembering the old stuff.
Autism Sign: Lack of Social Interaction, Doesn't Respond to Name
|Somebody (probably himself) put baby in a corner|
And then there were obvious things. James' tantrums were wild and long. He didn't point which made it even harder to try and appease him. He was OBSESSED with the credits at the end of TV shows and movies. I personally just kinda figured that just how James was but his grandma's, maternal a pediatrician and paternal who had very close experience with autism, noticed these things and kept track.
I feel kinda stupid because you'd think, 1 in 88 kids (1 in 54 boys) have autism, and it's in James' family history… I also figured that my life was such hell at the time because raising twins was hell and that's just how it was. Oh yeah, he has red hair so we blamed his temper on that. When I was little I sure had attitude and I know my hair got blamed a lot.
And the other thing, James is wicked smart. When got him evaluated last August, so basically 2 1/5 years-old, James knew how to count to 12 and count down from 12. He knew his shapes and could identify them. He could draw a circle and a recognizable triangle. Not to mention he was on level 21 of Angry Birds, and there was more than one level with three stars. Most annoying, he knew that if we weren't at home my phone could access Netflix and his iPod touch couldn't and the little snot knew how to turn off airplane mode so he could watch things (and call people, grr) (we deleted the Netflix app). I thought it was cool that he was so smart, not worrisome. In James' diagnosis, a ten page packet that details the reasons why the doctor believes that James has autism and why it is autism and not an Autism Spectrum Disorder, the diagnosing doctor says "intelligent verging on the precocious." That doesn't sound too bad. I'm just glad James isn't some kind of savant cause when that kid learns to talk...
|Looking at Mommy's phone|
Then I think about all those mommies out there who don't know about ABA and have to see what I was seeing, my child slowly disappearing into a world within himself and when he came out he was jerked out, he hated it and I didn't want to do that to him so I just had to watch.
We've been working on James sitting at the table to eat, and it's been a fight. You bring him to the table by saying, "It's time to eat." There are a lot of different responses you can expect from James and on this particular night it was not a good response. But with ABA you're teaching the child to behave the way that their peers do, even if it means using all your strength to keep James in your lap to keep him at the table. It's pretty hard, but this one night, I had to hold Lily in her chair to keep her from going to him.
You get used to holding James down, but I will never get used to stopping Lily from comforting him.